How important is pretty?

Kelleher International is a matchmaking service, not a dating service.  This means we aren't in the same business as "DateAModel.com", instead, we use our two-and-a-half decades of experience to find our clients "the One" partner for a lifetime of happiness.

So does that mean that looks don't matter?  Does someone have to be "pretty enough" if they hope to find love?  

I'm going to skip over my politically correct disclaimers and 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' and get to the straight truth:

• Attractiveness matters - but at least as important as 'what you've got' is 'what you do with what you've got'.  Somewhere between centuries of evolutionary conditioning and the latest Abercrombie & Fitch ad there has been created visceral reactions to 'pretty', none of us benefit from either denying it, or being angry about it.  Whatever your starting point, what else you do-with-what-you-got is going to make the more powerful impact.  Is your hair well coiffed, are your clothes nice, have you been to gym in the past six months -- all of these things tell a deeper story of personal pride that are at least at powerful as the physical gifts you received.

 

• We encourage clients to focus on what is important to them, but we also urge them not to deny what they 'like', because that is the short route to unhappiness. [read more]