He seems spectacular -- he treats me like a princess, is great looking, intelligent, and we share a lot of interests. But when the weekend rolls around, I want party until the sun comes up and he wants to be under the covers by 11p. Help! Am I in trouble?!?
Is this a "yin and yang" or "oil and water"? I'm going to start by dispelling one of the most dangerous dating adages... "opposites attract".
No they don't.
The right phrase is... [read more]
Ali Fedowsky is hot in the pursuit of 25 eligible men hoping to go from intro-to-altar in just ten weeks. There are a lot of things I like about this show, besides the fact that Ali is from right here in SF. I am not suggesting that looking for love in front of twenty-five million viewers is the best way to find romance, but there are some great lessons to be learned from this show.
For those of you that didn't catch last season of The Bachelor, Ali withdrew with only a few weeks in the competition because of pressure from work. It seems she has resolved her work issues and is finding her way into my home every week.
Lesson #1: A well-screened [Read more]
There was a great article this past weekend in the New York Times titled “The Science of a Happy Marriage”, which is an article about tracking the science of commitment.
The 10-second summary of the article is that while there may be some people that have a natural predisposition to either embrace or reject temptation, men and women can also train themselves to protect their relationships and raise their feelings of commitment.
Here are some of my favorite points from the long series of research studies the article cited.
You can read the article in it’s entirety (here).
Our role as Matchmakers is to guide our clients as best we can in navigating the waters of global dating. If you find yourself in the middle of a group date, here are some thoughts on what comes next...
I caught a couple of clips from a commencement address President Obama delivered at an historically black college this past weekend. He shared insights and inspirations, admonitions and encouragements to prepare this group for a bright future. About three-fourths of the way through his address, he looked into the crowd and warned that "online dating is a distraction". In our age of 24/7 connectivity, the experience had evolved to where “information becomes a distraction, a diversion, a
form of entertainment rather than a tool of empowerment.”
IN TOUCH magazine is currently running a two-page spread on Kelleher International. It has created quite a buzz! We remain a confidential and discreet matchmaking firm for our celebrity and non-celebrity clientele. All mentions of specific clients in this article were made with their full cooperation and permission.
Here's the full text!
STARS PAY $150,000 TO FIND A HUSBAND
Amber Kelleher-Andrews is the go-to matchmaker for Hollywood A-listers
How does a huge celebrity like Jennifer Aniston – blessed with beauty, fame and fortune – go about finding a regular guy who’s not just dating her because she is, in fact, Jennifer Aniston? More single stars are turning to professional matchmaker Amber Kelleher-Andrews of Kelleher International to help them find love – shelling out up to $150,000 for matches from around the world. “It’s not just for a date – they’re willing to pay that to meet the love of their lives,” Amber tells In Touch, “I think Jennifer’s ready.”
Today co-host Hoda Kotb underwent the process on TV – letting viewers watch her find the perfect mate. “It feels like I’m in High School” says Hoda. “Only this is so much better.”
Even men turn to Amber for dates. “We have Red Sox chairman Tom Werner and of the biggest rock ‘n’ roll stars” she reveals. “We have NFL stars, big basketball players and the owners of some of the biggest companies.”
GOING BACK TO THE BASICS
Amber says the mistake A-listers make is limiting their choices to others in the business. “It’s very difficult as a single, beautiful woman like Jennifer Aniston not to fall in love with co-stars like Vince Vaughn and Gerard Butler. She’d have to stop working a bit and meet some regular guys,” says Amber, who usually doesn’t tell men that they are being set up with a star. “The security that the clients have is knowing that the person wanted to meet them before they knew who they were. Successful men who have their act together do really well with actresses because they’re not intimidated.”
And Patti Stranger of Millionaire Matchmaker adds that the best matches are based on good old-fashion chemistry. “Stars get used for their money, looks and fame, but they have values and interests just like anyone else,” she says. “You have to teach them ‘Remember when you were a regular person.’ Then you can start to imagine your dream guy.”
It has been an exciting
month at Kelleher International. We spent two weeks in Europe meeting
new clients, interviewing prospects and debating whether the overcast
sky was fog or volcanic ash. We also made our way to the London Stock
Exchange where we were honored with a Global Matchmaking award from
Overseas Living (read a great article they wrote about us here).
It wasn't until we were due to jump on the long flight from LHR back to
SFO that the volcanic ash shut down European travel. As much as we
loved London, this seemed like the perfect cue to jump back in the
Chunnel and head to Paris for a few nights and some sightseeing. "If
you got lemons... make lemonade", shared Jill as she smiled at the
thought of another week on the Continent.
So we were off to the races and left the tens-of-thousands scrambling for London accomodations. We found a great hotel in the Latin Quarter of Paris and enjoyed a few days of great restaurants, wonderful museums and all that the romantic city of Paris had to offer. We continued our tour through Lyon and then Monte Carlo and St. Tropez. Gorgeous!!! When things happen that you don't predict, go with the flow and it can be the best of times! Like relationships, you have to trust that things will happen, be open to new possibilities and don't second guess.
There was a splashy article about us in In Touch magazine (here) – it was good celebrity fluff, all of the clients in the article agreed to be mentioned and we’ve had a great bump up in client requests since it hit the newsstands. We’ve also had a couple of more engagements announced, a wedding, and we are looking forward to some more great summer weddings.
The three new engagements in the Kelleher family make me particularly happy because they are all wonderful people, and the success is the result of very motivated clients and "The Kelleher System". By "The Kelleher System" I mean the Kelleher International process for developing profiles, matching clients, and then creating a feedback loop to make even better matches. All three clients had been with Kelleher for more than 7 months before meeting "The One". Each of them had been through an early patch of hit-and-miss matches as we collectively focused their priorities and refined their selection criteria. It was a joy to work with each of these clients who understood that matchmaking is equal parts art and science, and that as matchmakers we can only be as successful as our clients allow us to be. These clients were engaged, had their eyes on the prize, and allowed us to make their experience more successful.
For those of you that have not yet taken the steps to find your match, I urge you to look forward to your summer vacation or long Labor Day weekend and ask yourself “How would it be different with my heart on fire?”
At Kelleher International we hope you are having a love-filled May and are eagerly anticipating summer!
"I am
actually off the market as I am exclusively dating one of your
referrals. Thank you sooooo much!"
"Please put
my status on hold. I want to thank you and the other staff members for
helping me to find Sarah!"
"Dear Jenny - I cannot tell you how much I
admire the work you have done and really how difficult the task at hand
must be to match people up. You are as gracious as can be, and I love
working with you and the Kelleher Team. Sincerely, I do want to meet the
right match for me, and I do so think it is highly more likely with a
team effort helping me."
Romantic Hotel
Hôtel Hermitage Monaco
Romantic Restaurant
Restaurant Joel Robuchon
Romantic Setting
Prince's Palace at Night
We’re in the middle of
both the NHL and NBA playoffs and I feel like I’m already a sports widow
(and we’ve only been dating 3 months) – is this a bad sign?
It’s great when guys like sports. It feels masculine, it builds
healthy relationships with other men, it can be a cornerstone of a
father/son bond, and more importantly, it can be the impetus for
establishing regular “boys’ nights” and “girls’ nights”.
No matter how wonderfully in love you become and how deep
the passion will burn for decades, it will be important for you and your
match to maintain some relationships that flourish outside of the two
of you as a couple. Nights out with your ladies will help you hold on
to your current identity and pour energy into your relationship. His
nights out with the fellas will reinforce his masculinity (also good for
you) and stengthen his appreciation for your partnership.
Playoff season doesn’t mean just let him go off with his buddies to drink beers and watch the games -- this is also a chance for you to get to know him better. I don’t advise that you create a new-found interest for the Philly Flyers (although Mike Richards is very cute), but you can begin to ask your partner more about what formed his love of the games – did he play as a kid, did his dad take him to the games, what role does he think organized sports play in the raising of children.
So don’t despair, it will all be over in a couple of weeks, and it’s a great opportunity to grow your relationship.My mom and I just touched down in Heathrow for a two-week whirlwind tour of Europe. I never tire of that first view of the row of Black Cabs just outside of baggage claim, and then the anticipation of seeing the London skyline rise in the distance. So much history!!!!
If you had told us ten years ago that the Kelleher network was going to extend to three continents, it would have been hard for us to imagine the spectacular set of clients we have on tap over the next fourteen days. Who knew we would have so much success finding love!!! We never made an explicit decision to grow our network to London, but the global nature of our clientele and the strength of our US reputation has us lined up for a day at Soho House interviewing prospective clients.
We come to Europe a couple of times a year, mostly to support a handful of high profile searches and to conduct interviews. We also spend a lot of one-on-one time with our expanding team to ensure that the Kelleher International standards of service and reputation for quality extend to all of our European locations. It’s exciting to meet the unique men and beautiful women that make up the Kelleher European Network. And I LOVE all the great accents!
This trip is especially exciting because we will be on the floor of the London Stock Exchange later this week to pick up a “Leading Global Matchmaker Award” from Overseas Living. A few months ago one of their committee members made the 5,500 mile trek to our global headquarters just outside of San Francisco and wrote this article for their magazine [read it here]. The award is a great honor and a testament to the great clients we have in every corner of the world!!
Now, it’s time for me to grab some sleep. Virgin Upper Class was very relaxing, but the eight time zone shift is a lot and tomorrow Mom and I have clients, clients, clients!!
Spring is here and love is in the air! We
have lots of big news at Kelleher International this month,
and we are all bursting with excitement for what lies ahead for all of
us in the months ahead.
First, on April 14th, my mother, Jill, and I will be
standing on the floor of the London Stock Exchange to receive the Overseas
Living Top Matchmakers Award! A BBC correspondent will be
presenting us the award in recognition of global leadership in elite
matchmaking. We're thrilled!
Second, Jill and I will be following up the award ceremony
with two weeks shuttling between our London and Paris
offices meeting with our European scouts and clients – International
Matches anyone?
Third, my Saturday radio show continues to move up the charts
as each week I share my latest thoughts on love and relationships.
I’ve been working on a show titled “More Needles, Fewer
Haystacks!” that has me excited about everyone’s opportunity
to find “The One”. I’ve included more details in the back half of this
newsletter. On April 24th my show will air LIVE at UCLA in front of an
audience of 130,000 as part of the Los Angeles Times' Festival
of Books. [more info here]
Finally, we've been having such great
success lately matching our clients to referrals from other members of
the extended Kelleher Family, that we have decided to run a short
program for all of you to “give the gift of love” to a
great guy that you know. Check it out below, and maybe you can bring a
lifetime of joy to someone you know.
This is such a great season for couples to tap into the
energy of Spring, that that our offices are abuzz with new romance and
an excited set of new singles. Welcome to April!
I don’t know if you've had the opportunity to hear my weekly radio broadcast on KFWB NEWS TALK 980 AM, but for over 8 months now I’ve been sharing advice on how to put your best foot forward to find the love of your life. My top-rated relationship show is called The Rules of Engagement and each week I talk about the dos and don’ts of dating from the lessons learned from 40,000 dates we have on record with Kelleher!
This week I was working on an upcoming show with my producer,
and I realized that I just couldn’t wait until air-time to share with
you, my extended Kelleher “family” what we will be talking about.
The program is More Needles, Fewer Haystacks!
and the plan is for me to reveal some details of key ingredients in the
Kelleher International “secret sauce”; specifically, how we so
consistently find all the great people we have in the Kelleher network,
and more importantly, “The One” for our clients.
At Kelleher International we have a mantra to “Leave No
Stone Unturned” when searching for the right match for our clients – and
the process we employ includes a combination of both deliberate
and opportunistic tactics to make the magic happen.
We are first and foremost a personal search firm. The deliberate
tactics are the things we do every week of every month of every year to
identify fantastic individuals who have the potential to be great
matches. We start with our massive, worldwide advertising campaigns that
we run in everything from luxury publications to Ivy League alumni
magazines in order to be in front of the right kind of person. Second,
we have a formalized Scouting Program, through which we are in constant
contact with the influencers and connectors in all the major cities
where we operate. Third, we systematically scour upscale online dating
services and social sites, vetting for truly extraordinary individuals
who are the exception, lost in the overwhelming haystack of average.
On the opportunistic front, everyone at Kelleher International is armed with calling cards and the “No Stone Unturned” mission. Just like in your life, you never know where you will find love, and Kelleher is about “opening doors to new relationships”, so when we happen to run into the right person we try to engage
them as a client or a PM (Participating Member). Is it a good idea to hand out one of my cards at a Starbucks in Manhattan? It sure is, if it's at 40th and 6th and it's Fashion Week. Is it a good idea to approach a prospect in a hotel lounge where we have just finished an interview? We believe so, if she’s the long legged beauty who’s caught the eye of every patron in the room. Should we be handing out cards during teatime at the Beverly Hilton later this month? You betcha, because that’s when the Milken Conference comes to town, and there are sure to be at least four Nobel laureates in the room.
Between the deliberate things we do and the opportunitistic
moments when we strike because the fire is hot, the Kelleher team works
relentlessly across the country and overseas so that you don’t have to,
to identify each month incredible people for our renowned network.
So be sure to tune into my fun and informative show! You can
listen through our website [here] for my latest thoughts on love and the pursuit of great
relationships, and know that we are working 24/7 to find you your
perfect match!
"Last January
you called me to discuss my most recent match and our decision to go
'exclusive'. I don't think I have updated you since then. I want you to
know that we got married last Wednesday in Hawaii! Most
Romantic Hotel
Hotel de Tuilerieën
Most Romantic Restaurant
Saint-Amour ('t Voermanshuys)
Most Romantic View
The Old Sashuis at the Minnewater
I don’t know if you voted for Reagan, Clinton, Perot or Larouche, but in this moment I urge you to “keep your eye on the prize”.
Dates are not debates. The only thing you should be thinking about “winning” is the search for a fulfilling partner. As your date opinionizes across her tarte tatin and asserts that the US might be twenty-four months from total meltdown, your first thought should be “wow, this woman is more interesting and thoughtful and intelligent than I had suspected.” Then, this topic should be no different than if she had said “I have loved polo since I was a little girl”. It is a cue to learn more about your match. Instead of initiating a lightning round of point-counterpoint, this is a great opportunity to explore her opinions and perspectives. “How would you change the policies?”, “What are the obligations of the ‘haves’ to the ‘have nots’?”, “What would be the long term implications of not broadening health care coverage?”.
Now I am not saying to give up your own opinions and lay down the discussion (I have an entire radio show about the importance of masculinity vs. patriarchy), nor am I suggesting that Carville/Matalin is a great recipe for romance. I am just trying to orient you around the moment at hand. This is not you and the fellas at the 19th Hole engaging great topics over single malts and Cohiba’s. This is you exploring the intelligence and passion of a potential long-term partner.
James Carville and Mary Matalin sit at the furthest extremes on the political spectrum and have been married for 17 years. I remember seeing them on TV on the set of Meet the Press the week Tim Russert passed unexpectedly – holding hands, holding back tears and paying tribute to a fallen friend. That is the moment that it became clear to me that I shouldn’t marvel at how two such dramatically different people have maintained such a wonderful relationship, but rather I should bask in the “beacon of love” that brought together two people so passioned and devoted to the role of politics and the ideals of government.
So take another bite of desert and don’t let the healthcare mess ruin your meal.
March feels like an “in between” month to
me yet full of anticipation. The snow is starting to melt and spring
skiing is here! There is still a light frost in the morning on our
hillside, but the first buds are appearing on the fruit trees in our
yard. My late afternoons are spent cheering on my boys at their
little league baseball games. I'm grateful that Winter is through and
excited that Spring is in the air.
If you have ever been to Washington DC at the end of March
then you have experienced the wonderful beauty of the Cherry Blossom
Festival when over the course of a few days the Japanese Sakura trees
sprout lovely pink flowers. This gorgeous display actually serves two
purposes: the blossoms give off a scent that attracts the local bees,
which are critical to germinating the cherries; and when the blooms
receive sufficient sunlight, it triggers the roots to begin to draw more
water from the soil to support new growth.
I’d like the Spring blossoms to inspire you. I share this
story with potential clients who have become so discouraged in dating
that they are just passively waiting for “the right one” to come along.
Take a lesson from the Japanese tree. To attract love into your life,
you must outwardly signal that your “winter” is over, and reveal your
energy, optimism, and willingness to grow. And when you feel that first
sunlight, be prepared to drink in the joy of a new relationship to
fuel your strength for Spring.
I challenge you to end your Winter – call a Kelleher
International Matchmaker today and start your Spring!
It’s that time of year when I
ask my closest clients and reluctant prospects to consider a little Personal
Spring Cleaning to prepare them for this next season of love.
r where you are in finding that next special romance
(even if you are in early stages with someone), make sure you have
cleaned out any lingering “leaves” from past relationships so that you
can refocus on the “good” you are seeking, not on the “bad” you hope to
avoid.
Next, sweep out the garage and get rid of the
clutter of your endless “check lists” guiding your next romance. Refresh
your clarity on the core characteristics you are seeking in a partner
that will bring a lifetime of happiness. Center in on the “must haves”
that describe the life you want for yourself, and then supplement that
with some “nice to haves” to help us find the right person for you.
My dad and stepmom [former Kelleher clients] will celebrate their 10 year wedding anniversary in May this year. So, you and Kelleher have done a wonderful job. Cheers to you and keep up the great fix ups!"
Most Romantic Hotel
Adare Manor Hotel
Most Romantic Restaurant
Brûlées Restaurant
Most Romantic Setting
The Cliffs of Moher
Congratulations on taking this great step forward towards
happiness. When I’m working with clients with children, I have a couple
of strong guidelines to help them navigate these new relationship
waters.
To this day it remains a premiere neighborhood with beautiful real estate and timeless views.
This week Kelleher International was featured in an article titled "The Art of Perfect Pairing".
Here's an excerpt:
Kelleher and Associates’s world headquarters, founded by Jill Kelleher in 1989 and currently co-owned and run with her daughter, Amber Kelleher-Andrews, is located in Sausalito. The offices are functional, professional, welcoming, and user-friendly. Everyone in the office seems cheerful, courteous, and accommodating. One gets the sense that Jill could be not just a real life matchmaker, but also your best gal pal. Jill and Amber, a former actress, set up clients together with the business expertise of COO John Galloway. Kelleher has an international database that registers in the thousands and affiliate offices scattered throughout the United States and Europe. Considering that the company is one of the largest privately owned offline matchmaking companies in the country, it manages to project a sincere, personal, and intimate atmosphere. A professional staff does extensive intakes and profiling on prospective clients, but Jill and Amber’s intuition and people skills remain the strongest assets. They run a hands-on operation and are personally involved throughout the process. They work with physically fit, addiction free, accomplished, and serious relationship-minded clients who think within what they call the “reality range.”
“If someone is a five and they’re looking for a ten, it won’t work,” Jill states matter-of-factly. They confess that men are easier to work with than women because men simply want the basic facts, while women want to know more. Both sexes, however, are looking for that someone special with positive and supportive values— and are willing to pay for it. Membership begins at $10,000 and escalates depending on the length of the contract and requirements of the individual. If something doesn’t work out within the specified time, they have been known to stretch the contract. Kelleher and Associates are rumored to work with well-known celebrities and business CEOs, but mum’s the word. With a tagline of “exquisite matchmaking,” the company works hard to find the right fit, and success is measured one couple at a time.
This is a great window into our 24+ year tradition of wonderful matchmaking. Thanks Serena!
Wow! Is it Valentine’s Day already?
It seems like just
yesterday I was setting the Thanksgiving table and now I’m seeing
lace-outlined hearts and cupid’s silhouette wherever I go. Valentine’s
Day means a lot of different things to a lot of different people – a
celebration of personal love, a reminder of dreams to come, or a
commercialized tribute to Hallmark and friends.
February 14th can be a day to do something special for your
loved one, or, if you are still looking for that special someone then
maybe now is the time to prioritize your schedule and make this the most
love-filled and rewarding year of your life.
I remember one Valentines Day when I was single before I met
the love of my life, I received a Valentines Day Card from a girlfriend
wishing me a "Happy Valentine's Day" and saying we have to get together
soon. It was such a simple gesture, and something I have never
forgotten.
Valentines Day doesn't have to be a day only for lovers, but
a day of love that can be shared with friends and relatives as well. As
my mother Jill says, "Isn't it all about the Law of Attraction?"
"The more love we give out, the more love we attract into
our lives".
February 14th is a great day to reignite the fire of love.
If you promised to take a couples vacation – book the flight! If you're
not a client and you are committed to finding the love of your life,
then pick up the phone and call Kelleher International.
Best wishes for creating the life and the love that you
want.
Even
though it is only a few days away, I’m still getting ten calls a day of
“what’s the right gift for this stage of our relationship? Help!”
Let me start with Congrats! Despite all of the unnecessary
pressure we put on ourselves around this holiday, there is still
something exhilarating and wonderful about Valentines Day.
Now, I don't want to stand between you and your desire to
get her that tennis bracelet the two of you admired last weekend (you’re
welcome, ladies!), however, gifts really should reflect the stage of
the relationship – too much, too fast can deliver a confusing message.
The most important thing is that, whatever the price point,
the gift follows a simple formula: CPR – Classic, Personal and
Recognition.
First, I want to re-orient
your thinking – we are not going to focus on what anyone is doing
“wrong”, we are going to zero in on what we need to do to put you in a
position to be more successful.
Next, let’s re-review your selection criteria – are you
requesting any “must have’s” that go hand-in-hand with something that
has been a deal killer, e.g. you love that he is an international
businessman, but hate that he is out of town all of the time. Or, have
you left a big must have or can’t have off your profile that we might be
able to identify through reviewing your past dates?
Third, are you bringing the right energy and mindset to the
dates you are set up on? If you have a happy, positive attitude and you
are interested and interesting, this will get you to the next date.
Re-orient your thinking, take a fresh look at your selection
criteria, and bring a positive energy to your new connections, and
your dates will be headed in the right direction.
Happy Valentines Day!We
just got this note sent to one of our Matchmakers!
I had the great pleasure this weekend to sit down with Author and relationship expert Amy Shoen, who recently published “Get it Right This Time”, a guide to making the right decision.
Amy hits squarely on a theme that is at the heart of Kelleher International’s relationship coaching, which is part of every Kelleher client partnership. Amy talks about evolving your “list” of requirements into a list of “musts” that center in on life values and life goals.
We have this conversation every day with our clients as we help them try to prioritize what is important to them as we head into the “matching” phase of helping them find “the One”. Amy continues on to say that the secret to “Getting it Right” is to then rapidly follow up your clear list of “musts” with ACTION to put yourself in a position where you are exposed to the type of person you’ve described in your “musts”.
You can find her book on Amazon, and what I particularly enjoyed about Amy’s discussion this past weekend is that it reinforces several themes we’ve had over the past few weeks – building a “significant other guide” that is about values and life goals, and secondly, understanding that engaging a matchmaker is just the beginning, and that the client must still lead massive action and bring big energy to the search for “the One”.
Cozy Bar Call
the concierge at your favorite local hotel (in San Francisco The Fairmont never steers me wrong) and ask them to point you toward
low lights, big couches, a roaring fireplace, and a drink menu designed to warm you from the core. Then settle in for a long night of
intimate conversation talking about your aspirations for the New Year.
Hockey Game Whether or not you’re a sports
aficionado, there’s something uniquely electrifying about a hockey match. The two of you will caught up in the energy of a
professional sporting event, the great smell of the ice, the marvel of
the skating skills of the players, and the very healthy beer and dog
combo. Put it on your list for a great winter date.
Pretend You’re
Snowed In Sometimes the best winter dates are inside, far from
the whistling winds and chilly temperatures. Start the evening with the
two of you cooking some simple comfort food to be shared over a great
bottle of red wine. After dinner, light a raging fire and bring out the
surprise of graham crackers, marshmallows and some Hershey chocolate
bars, and prepare for a delicious evening.
Surprise Weekend
Getaway Nothing says “we make
our own future” like whisking her away on a spontaneous , luxurious
getaway to the sun and sand. A long weekend at Cap Juluca is one great
destination that’s sure to sizzle. Two tips: book the couples massage
ahead of time, and give her at least 24 hours notice (we girls love
surprises, but also love a little prep time before heading to the
beach!).
Question: I have met a wonderful woman and
want to take her away for the weekend. How can I judge if it's too
soon?
First, let me start with a congratulation! New romance is exhilarating and it must be very exciting to be ready to plan your first getaway.
The answer largely centers around where the relationship is in
regard to "overnight stays". If you and your travel companion live in
different cities, and you are to the point where you are staying
overnight in the same room whichever city you are in, then I say full
steam ahead -- a weekend getaway is just a wonderful change in venue! If
you both live in the same city and have not yet had a sleepover, then I
move to the next layer of questions. If there is a structural reason
you may have not yet had a sleepover, e.g., she has children at home,
then a weekend trip may be just the impetus to advance to the next
stage. If there are no structural impediments, then proceed with care.
Your best bet is to concentrate on how you propose the idea. If
you've yet to have an overnight stay, bring up the concept of a weekend
away and evaluate her response. There's a big difference between "I was
thinking it might be fun to take you to Palm Springs" and "I've booked
us two flights and a suite with an ocean view for this weekend." The
latter, though very romantic, is best reserved for when your
relationship is more established.
Lastly, in the worst case scenario where you've jumped the gun,
simply
follow up quickly with an honest sentiment like "I didn't
mean to
pressure you, I'm just really enjoying your company and want
to spend
more time together. If you wish, I could reserve you your
own room." Or,
redirect the invite to be more about extending the fun --
"How about
we take a day drip then" -- then advance the relationship.
Either way, she'll be flattered, and appreciate the clear signals that you like her. Good luck and have fun!
As the year winds down and the Kelleher
International family reflects on a love-filled 2009 we would all like to
express our gratitude and great wishes to our “extended Kelleher
Family”. We have shared in your blossoming relationships and feel
blessed to have been a part of your quest to find true love.
We hope your holiday is filled with cheer and that the New
Year is chock full o’ joy and infinite romance. We are looking forward
to another great year in 2010 and can’t wait to see what the New Year
has in store for all of us!
As we hustle from store to store making our lists and
checking it twice, our thoughts rightly turn to our loved ones and the
joy we wish them for the season. If 2009 hasn’t contained the personal
love story you had hoped for, then I urge you to put one more person on
your Christmas list – You! Give yourself the gift of love this holiday
season and commit to new romance in 2010. Give us a call here Kelleher
International and let us help to set you on the way to a love-filled New
Year.
You are the architect of your own future and joy, and it can
all begin with a simple call.
Have a great Holiday!
I probably
get three frenzied calls a day from our clients asking “what should I
get her for Christmas? How can I find something she likes, I am
terrible at gift giving!” First, relax. Gift giving is about the
sentiment and the thoughtfulness and the expression of love at the
holidays. But that doesn’t mean you can’t get her a great gift that
will light up her eyes and warm her heart.
This year my favorite gifts revolve around an exciting 2010 I
have planned, full of travel to wonderful destinations – some for the
first time, some for the tenth! These gifts will tell your holiday
Santa that the New Year holds adventure for the two of you, and
adventure should be enjoyed in style.
Nothing takes me back to the
unfolding magnificence of a new destination like the spice-filled smells
of a Arabian marketplace. My first recommendation will transport you
back to the Grand Bazaar and the swirl of sounds and smells of that
truly unique experience. With echoes of Arabian nights, Annick Goutal's
limited edition trio of fragrances is the ideal gift for any discerning
nose.
Annick Goutal Les Orientalistes
limited-edition coffret, $750. saks.com.
Next, on long flights I like to
keep a small set of “essentials” at-the-ready for the entire flight, and
nothing helps me do that better than a couple of getaway-chic Coach
Pouches that slip over my wrist and stay my constant companion. Keep
travel essentials close with these Coach wristlets.
Coach pouches, $248 each. 877-COACH-04.
Finally, the right luggage
transforms a vacation into a journey. That is all I need to say to
introduce Globe-Trotter Erdem suitcase from The Conran Shop, £775
Fashion designer Erdem Moralioglu has been making waves for
all the right reasons on the catwalk this year, but now has his eye on a
very different kind of runway with this chic suitcase. Created in
partnership with luxury luggage company Globe-Trotter, it's the ultimate
in designer travel accessories.
Truman Capote: “Venice is like eating an entire box
of chocolate liquers in one go”
Most Romantic Hotel
Hilton Molino Stucky
Most Romantic Restaurant
Fortuny Restaurant
(Cipriani)
Most Romantic Setting
"I was amazed by her heart, her giving, and
how she relates to me. She has this incredible beauty and exudes genuine
warmth. It sounds corny, but being with her just feels like I'm at
'home'. At the same time, she is really sexy, likes to weave into the
fast lanefrom time to time, but is absolutely grounded in herself. It
is this combination that has got me so excited.
Q:
He didn’t kiss me last night – does that mean he doesn’t like me?
No matter how “seasoned” we are
at new romance, the swirl of “does (s)he like me” can overpower even the most stalwart
of daters. Every day I get frantically-restrained calls from my clients following an electric evening out with a new
prospect.
“When should I call? If they don’t call, can I call them?
How long is too long? How soon is too soon?”
My advice is simple.
If you are the man in the relationship, call as soon as you
want and don’t wait too long. When you call, after an instant the “how
long did he wait to call me” will be whisked away and replaced with any
detail you share from your date that highlights what a great time you
had.
If you are the woman, I say give your date the opportunity
to take the traditional role of “pursuer”. Don’t panic after 36 hours
and don’t give yourself a complex and imaging the one hundred reasons
why he hasn’t called. If a week goes by, then my story changes. If you
want to call him, pick up and the phone and do it – you are the champion
of your own happiness, so take control.
I hope 2010 is full of great romance and quick call backs!
“She is clearly bright and very
accomplished. She is 
“My first impression of P. was good. He is very attractive
and I just love his beautiful blue eyes. My reaction did not change – I
was impressed!"
“She’s both
intelligent and an intellectual. She’s witty, reads, has a social
conscience, and is actively engaged in exploring wide ranging socially
relevant, provocative ideas.”
Am I being too picky, or just honest about
what I want?
This is one of my favorite questions – it shows that you are
already thinking about what is important to you in finding a great
match.
My first response is always to encourage you to be honest
about what you want; this is one of the most important decisions of your
life. My second response is then to press clients to closely examine
their priorities and put them into two buckets: 1) dealbreakers, and 2)
preferences that aren’t dealbreakers. I try to help them focus their
dealbreakers on those big criteria that are important to creating the
rich and fulfilling life they aspire to.
Final
Advice: Don’t deny what is
important to you in a partner, but put it in the right context so that
Kelleher International is in the best position to help you find your
great love.
Whenever I am at a dinner party and the conversation turns to love, the crowd eventually discovers that I am a matchmaker. And just like the doctor at the party gets peppered with medical questions and the stock broker gets asked for his hottest tips, I inevitably find myself cornered at some point in the evening and asked for a little love advice.
We all have a friend who has been with a guy for what feels like "too long". We've stopped asking her "when is he going to pop the question" and now among our friends ask "when is she going to smart up?". I had a great guest on my show recently, Dr. Ish Major, a psychologist specializing in relationship behaviors. He has recently published a book titled “Little White Whys: A Woman’s Guide Through the Lies Men Tell and Why”. He had some great insights, and a couple of tests to get some insight into whether your man is in "the zone", or just dating. Read more about the great session we had together here
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